10 Years

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I believe it was Lao Tzu who wrote “new beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.” Today I am not sure if truer words have ever been written.

Today would have been my 10 year wedding anniversary. That is, if things had gone the way I planned. But as we know, they never do. My divorce and subsequent relationships have taught me invaluable lessons. Lessons that if I hadn’t learned, I wouldn’t be where I am today. And friends, I am so happy to share with you that I am in the best place I have ever been.

I moved home to my little island before the summer of 2012 to heal. To pause. To take time to reflect. And be quiet. And still. I knew I wanted a loving and committed relationship but for some reason, it just wasn’t working out for me. So I moved to a beautiful place. Alone. To figure it out. And figure it out I did.

My friends have always joked with me that I don’t have a type. I really don’t. The men I have dated span the spectrum. The one consistent piece was always me and my {sometimes too} open heart. But sometimes my heart and head weren’t aligned. I held onto moments instead of the realities. In those two years of quiet reflection, I realized I yearned for a love I had not yet experienced. “I crave a love so deep the ocean would be jealous.” I knew when I met that one who was just as open as me, that things would just be.

And be they are. I met my companion. The one who makes me laugh. The one who holds me when I cry. The one who believes in all my dreams {and wants to be part of them}. My best friend. And her name is K or as I like to call her #mygirl.

As a graduate of a women’s college, many would suspect that I did that college thing and explored a relationship with a woman. I am here to deny all such suspicions and confirm that never happened. I did have a “crush” but when I thought about developing it into anything else, it just didn’t seem right.

That was before #mygirl. Still the only girl who caught my eye. I met K through a mutual friend and early on, I knew there was something different about her. She made me pause. But our lives were in very different places.

But last spring, our paths aligned. “When love is real, it finds a way.” I had just returned from a trip to sunny California to visit my parents. It was on that trip, I decided it was time to leave the island and head back to Boston. A week later, I was back in Boston and everything changed.

Deciding to open my heart and life up to K has been the easiest and best decision of my life. My friends and family have welcomed her into our lives with open arms. She has brought out the very best in me. Ten years later, life is exactly how it should be and I am quite certain it will only get better with each passing year.

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365 Days

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Wow, it seems like just yesterday I was enjoying those strawberry crostini as I checked the first item off my Summer 2014 Bucket List. How the time does fly! A lot has certainly changed over this past year. I moved off the island, started a new job, fell in-love, traveled near and {not so} far and while my life has been filled with so much joy, the one thing I have certainly missed is this little blog of mine. So, a year later I start again. I look forward to you joining me for the ride. And, should you want to see the snapshots of this past year, check out my Instagram feed. As you will see, I have been quite busy #inthekitchenwithmay, which means lots of yummy recipe posts to come. I’ll see you back here tomorrow!

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Dream Home
Have you all heard of Jane Lilly Warren? She is the co-founder and creative director of Matchbook Magazine, a monthly favorite, and has one of the best eyes out there. While “stalking” her on Instagram this weekend, I came across this photo of a home she visited in York, Maine and instantly fell in-love. Isn’t it delightful? It got me thinking a lot about my future home.

Let’s take a tour, shall we?

Here is my entry way (courtesy of Amanda Peet’s home feature in Vogue).
Entryway

On the left, will be a door to a small powder room. I love using a bold wallpaper in a small space and this chocolate one with the green mirror is perfection. I might do different sconces but overall, this is one of the best powder rooms I’ve seen.
First Floor Bath

As you continue through the entry way, you will enter the family/tv room (again courtesy of Amanda Peet’s home feature in Vogue).
Family:TV Room

And then into the formal living room.
Living Room

I believe one of the most important rooms in any home is the kitchen. This one from Lonny’s March/April 2011 issue is near perfection. I would only add a small english pine table in the corner with the banquet to serve as a little breakfast nook and perhaps have two overhead lighting fixtures instead of one.
Kitchen

And since I’m one who loves to entertain, I like the feel of this not-so-formal dining room. The fire place just makes it for me.
Dining Room

Now, let’s head on up to the second floor. I love little spaces that you can get lost in for hours. This second floor window seat might just be my favorite part of the house.
Top of Stairs

I love the feeling of a home with lots of love and thus I will need a few guests room to have all my nearest and dearest down whenever possible. Guest room #1.
Master Bedroom2

Tom Scheerer is one of my favorite interior designers. Look at this guest bedroom in one of his project’s in the Bahamas featured in Elle Decor. Wouldn’t change a single thing.
Guest Bedroom

The master bedroom is the second most important room in the house. I was drawn to this room as it’s a bit more masculine and I know I will have to compromise with my future mate on all my boho picks. Hopefully he will think this room is just as much his as mine.
Master Bedroom

And lastly, a place of relaxation. The master bath. I could easily end everyday here.
Master Bath

So there you have it. My future home. Can’t wait to have you all over!